MORE ABOUT ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO COPE IT

lt's been ever I written about abusive relationship and the effect of it toward children and partners. It will be helpful to know about abusive relationship more and more, so someone can take his or her best decision for his or her life and the other party surround him or her, particularly, their children. Moreover, abusive relationship nit only happen in the husband and wife life, but it can happen in other kinds of relationship, such as between teacher and student, friend, etc.

So, what are the characteristics of someone who get into the abusive relationship, and what are needed by them? among other things are:

• unexplained bruises, broken bones, sprains, or marks
  
• excessive guilt or shame for no apparent reason
  
• secrecy or withdrawal from friends and family
  
• avoidance of school or social events with excuses that don't seem to make any sense

A person who is being abused needs someone to hear and believe him or her. Maybe your friend is afraid to tell a parent because that will bring pressure to end the relationship. People who are abused often feel like it's their fault — that they "asked for it" or that they don't deserve any better. But abuse is never deserved. Help your friend understand that it is not his or her fault. Your friend is not a bad person. The person who is being abusive has a serious problem and needs professional help.
A friend who is being abused needs your patience, love, and understanding. Your friend also needs your encouragement to get help immediately from an adult, such as a parent or guidance counselor. Most of all, your friend needs you to listen without judging. It takes a lot of courage to admit being abused; let your friend know that you're offering your full support. Yet, usually someone who get abusive is shame to other to tell about their problem. So she can tell others not face to face. You can recommend her to share via mail to the consultant institution or mass media that will keep her privacy, in which this tools will give some recommendation and support to her. Today, there are some of them that provide this kind of consultation that will help the 'victim' without publish the identity of this abusee such as newspaper, magazine, and even website that provide will give some recommendation in how to solve the problem. So, the abusee will get the refresh of their mind about her life and her old partner.

Beside that, someone who has been being experienced abusive relationship must open and broader their scene of life, that this life is not so narrow and limited. For person who is still single, (not get married yet), mus be supported and encouraged that there are still something nice in this world, and there are still some nice partner that she or he can select either via face to face or via website as free online dating, in order that she will not face the bad experience again. In which this is can be found in through website. In which usually provide some information about the characteristics of man or woman, the beautiful place to make a date, etc. In other word, the abusee will be able to find the other partner that suitable and harmonious easily through . And, she also can make a date well and will be the unforgetable experience forever, in which this romantic dating will help her and her partner to maintain their love forever.

Futhermore about abusive relationship can be seen in: http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/abuse.html